Thursday, May 16, 2013

Let The Cooler Head Prevail

If you are fortunate enough and get the green light to explore further, as mentioned earlier you will have to engage in some light conversation.  It is important to note that this is a very key juncture; this is where a woman will get a first real impression of you beyond your appearance and what you say and how you say it.  It will determine whether your time together will last quite a while with great fun and fulfillment, or only another awkward and uncomfortable five minutes.  There are thousands of very, very attractive people in all the major cities who suddenly become very unattractive once they open their mouths and set their tongues wagging.  Make sure you don’t become one of the uninspired masses.   What you say specifically is of course dependent on what topics come up in conversation, so it is impossible to ‘script’ a perfect encounter.  However, there are some guidelines that should be followed here that will maximize your chances for moving this initial flirtation to a full blown first date, which is your only goal at this point.
Probably the most important rule at this moment is, no matter how striking, sexy, how she appears physically, how deep her eyes are, how well she is dressed – do not think at all about having sex with this person.  Males regularly falter here, as they switch over to letting their hormones do the thinking for them.  Your judgment will become clouded, and your motives will be transparent.  Of course, for some, this is a staggering task, but it is essential that you put forth the impression that you are interested in this person in ways other than sex.  Do not underestimate this!  Do what you have to do, think of her as a friend, someone’s sister who would kill you if you touched her, anything that gets your one-track mind off of bedding her.   Besides, you’re trying to determine if this person is someone you want to get to know better, establish a connection to help stoke the fire, and your preconceived sexual ideas will only get in the way of all of this.

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