Sunday, December 1, 2013
The key here is for you to find that ‘space’ that you can stay in physically, while all this sexually charged stuff is happening. Once you arrive there, you will know it, and relax there for a long time and enjoy all that is happening, because this is the physical place where all skilled lovers spend as much time as they can. However you do it, and there are as many ways to do it as there are men, get proficient at this as soon as possible. Women value men who have sexual self control very highly and those boys that don’t are relegated to the slag heap of non-performers. Become skilled at this and the woman or women in your life will be very happy with you. A general Good Bad Boy rule is make sure you bring your woman to climax first, and then it’s your turn – ladies first, as any gentleman would tell you. If she’s multi-orgasmic, lucky you and you’ll just have to wait until she’s had her fill of you – hardly a sacrifice. You’ve worked very hard to get to this place that feels really good, in many respects. Reward yourself by making it last as long as possible. The rewards will be great.
This is just a smaller, self –knowing aspect of the bigger topic of physical knowledge. You have already spent time finding out some of the physical places that turn a woman on, and getting to know your body more intimately and getting comfortable with it. Now that a foundation has been established, just simply explore and experiment from there. Try different things as an easy, natural extension of where you are at. Sex is a big playground; find what works, and what doesn’t, between the two of you. This is one fact finding expedition you will love to be on.
Thursday, November 28, 2013
Sunday, November 24, 2013
Men, in most respects are very linear and very happy to go from point A to point B in a straight line. This is not how you want to interact sexually with a woman. Women are much more circular, and the physical journey involved is very, very important. Bear in mind, once a man climaxes, the party usually becomes a whole lot less interesting for everybody. A Good Bad Boy will hold off his pleasure to make sure the woman he is with is fully satisfied.
Taking the time to learn and then using that knowledge to bring a woman to sexual satisfaction, is the responsibility of all Good Bad Boys. One shouldn’t get into the mindset that if a woman doesn’t orgasm, then you’ve failed. Sometimes it’s just not in the cards, but one should always be willing, ready, and able to do what is necessary to fulfill and satisfy the woman you are with every time you are with her. Again, let everything flow naturally, do not rush, the last thing a woman wants to do when she’s with a skilled lover is rush to orgasm. She’s having a fabulous journey and she wants the trip to last as long as possible, and in order for that to happen, you will have to be very good at physical self-control.
This is probably the biggest challenge and point of contention as far as sexual activity between men and women. Most complaints that women have with men physically is that they do not last long enough for them to be sexually satisfied, and they almost never can express their disappointment with this, since it’s such a delicate topic. This is unacceptable for a Good Bad Boy. The Fragile Male Ego and all that nonsense needs to take a hike, and men need to learn how to properly use what nature has gifted them with. Once again, here is an opportunity to differentiate yourself, and it is the most important way you can do it. Learn self control.
There are probably a thousand different ways of doing it, but whatever works for you, start doing it, and keep practicing. Some men are lucky enough to have this ability naturally, but they are few and far between – just ask any woman. In fact, probably the most important skill a male can have in the adult video industry is the ability to have self control, and to be able to orgasm for the ‘money shot’ on cue. With practice, it can be done. The practitioners of Tantric sex are skilled at this, and they spend years learning how to sublimate the physical urges that dominate a man’s body while in the middle of sexual activity. You need not become a Tantric Master to be skilled at self control, but some of the characteristics we’ve already discussed should be employed here.
Thursday, November 21, 2013
You would be sadly shocked at how many women have not had their desires and needs adequately considered, and worse yet, how regularly they are sublimated to the male’s needs. Do not participate in this imbalance between the sexes, any clueless male can, and does, proceed this way, and Good Bad Boys take the higher, evolved path. Once more you can differentiate yourself, find out what really gets her sexual attention, and be willing to go forward with it enthusiastically.
Of course, since you offered open communication, do be prepared for what may come back to you. It would be unusual for things to suddenly turn wild or kinky, but in the realm of sex there are few limitations. She may have a long harbored fantasy that no one has ever indulged her in, so be the first to do so. This assumes, of course, that you do not do anything to harm yourself, or your stature, do not suddenly turn off the Good Bad Boy path. If something strikes you as too scary or outré, just offer to revisit it at a later date after you know each other more, which values her desire but allows for things to progress more safely. However, do be willing to stretch yourself. If she wants to engage you sexually while you recite the poems of Shelly because it’s a huge turn on for her, by all means go for it.
your experiences only adds to your body of knowledge, and in the art of
lovemaking, you always want to be a student.
Listening leads to learning and putting what you learn into practice
builds a strong foundation of confidence.
While every woman is different, listening, learning and receiving from
them the lessons they offer will enhance your standing with womanhood as a
whole. Besides, this is all supposed to
be fun, so take the load off yourself.
Find out what it is that will drive your woman wild, and then do
As this should be one of the more fun learning experiences in your life, share it with her, and make sure to reinforce that she can communicate her needs and wishes with you at any time. You are just learning about her physically, and it’s very unrealistic for you to know every little nuance and place that will send her to the next level of heightened sexual pleasure. She will tell you if you offer the invitation, so make sure you allow for that communication path. It will enhance your connection, and you’ll be a much better lover as well, which is one of the most important goals throughout this process.
Sunday, November 17, 2013
A Good Bad Boy knows and loves the fact that lovemaking is an art form. While on the one hand it may seem very daunting and mysterious, it also reaps huge rewards for those that spend the time really learning the subtle nuances involved. Being skilled in this art will win you much adoration among women, given you’re not a jerk about it (more about that later). Since a lot of men really are not very good at this, it’s one more opportunity to separate yourself from the single male masses, which we’ve already established as an ongoing goal. More importantly, you’ll feel great about yourself, and positive self-image and confidence really foster a positive upward spiral, and we want that to continue without end.
So, as with any art form, practice as much as you can, and in this instance just take the opportunity and really spend time with her. Let your body catch up with your racing mind, and get back in sync. While you are learning with your hearing and sense of touch, do not hesitate to open up the channels of communication. This is not the time for a conversation, but do let her know, briefly, that she is welcome to let you know anything that you can do that will turn her on.
No one expects you to know everything, and inviting her to express what works for her lets her know that her pleasure is as important as yours, and you’ll continue to impress on her that it’s actually more important than yours – which it is, since it’s the key to many, many things to come, so to speak. Her hearing that you want to please her in a way that she wants will only strengthen the bond between the two of you, and she will have a caring, considerate and unselfish lover in her bed, which is what every woman wants.
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
This will always work, and generally if a woman has reached the point where she needs more, she will usually let you know, and often times in no uncertain terms.
Try to slow it all down – you will act more thoughtfully throughout and the sensual experience will last that much longer. All good!
Sunday, November 10, 2013
Being a Good Bad Boy goes in stages, and each level involves more challenges, but there are consistencies throughout. Firstly, be deliberate, slow, and even though you may feel inside that your body wants to go at a supersonic pace, being in control of yourself will reap you many rewards. Women are very attracted to men that can control themselves physically. You are quite clear on what you want, or at least have an inkling, but as with many concepts that have already been discussed, being counter-intuitive will once again be the course of action.
By being selfless, attentive and tuned in with your partner, you will not only show that you are giving and willing to please, but you will also get exactly what you want – even if you’re not quite sure what that is yet!
We touched on the power of anticipation, and being on the brink of sexual activity, all that anticipation is now rushing to your head. However, from here on, everything becomes very interactive. As with everything up to this point, your actions are predicated on having a woman at the peak of desire, and wanting you physically. Once in the bedroom, make sure this concept stays intact, even when the clothes come off, especially when you’re with someone for the first time. Savor it like the fine sensual experience it’s supposed to be, take it all in on all sense levels.