Sunday, January 11, 2015

The Dark Side of Being Nice.....

Unfortunately, there are many men out there who are traveling this path, repeatedly being a decent fellow, and continuing to not get the attention they desire. The seeds of anger are now planted. They don’t get their desired result, and sulk to friends about how this woman was a ‘stuck up bitch’, or a ‘princess’ or ‘arrogant’ or a ‘bimbo’ or a thousand other unacceptable terms. Men exhibit this behavior to make them feel better about themselves when a woman has refused their advances. There is a name for this behavior, and its called misogyny.

Lets make this very clear right now – under no circumstances is any attitude that is hateful or angry towards women acceptable. First, it will never get you into the arms of a sexy affectionate woman for any length of time. Next, it will eventually take over your own feeling of yourself, and self-doubt and loathing will permeate your psyche and women will pick that vibration up. You might as well be wearing a sign that says, “I Hate Myself, Therefore I Hate You”.  

You’ve operated with an ulterior motive, and now you’re reaping the sad harvest of that.
Once it comes out that you were being a nice guy with the hope of getting into a woman’s pants, not only will you not get any adoring kisses, there will be no friendship at all. Women run from guys like this at top speed in the other direction, and always refer to this type as a complete jerk. And you thought you were being a nice guy. 

Do kind favors without any expectations and if a woman is interested in you, she’ll let you know, in a subtle way most men seem to miss. If she doesn’t, let it go. Your self-worth as a Good Bad Boy now demands that you never go where you are not desired – no matter how cute she looks in those jeans.
Again, remember to Think Less and Feel More. If you’re really a Nice Guy one hundred percent, then you’re going through your day with a smile and being kind to others without any expectation in return. Yes, that includes your cute new co-worker that you can’t get your mind off of. 

One major mistake that men make is trying to be all things to all women. I've heard countless women complain "Men never know what they want." Another component of the miscommunication between the sexes. Being clear on what you want in any dating situation shows clarity and confidence, two big attractive aspects to women. 

So, the question arises - Do you know what you want in your next relationship?

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