Sunday, December 30, 2012

A Most Important Balance

Any good relationship, whether it is a new, sexually charged casual encounter or a marriage of many years, requires a level of balance to exist over time. Giving and receiving is a key component of this balance. Any relationship where one of the parties gets far more attention than the other or is spending much more time tending to the needs of the other is unbalanced, dysfunctional and unhealthy. This is not to say that things should be equal every minute of every day, since people tend to sometimes be more inclined to give than receive and vice versa. However, over time, things should generally equal out, at least to acceptable levels for the man and the woman.

Now, let’s make some distinctions. There is a big difference between receiving and taking, and the difference is in the perception, actions and attitude of the recipient. Receiving involves recognition, gratitude, appreciation, kindness and consideration in regard to the other person’s efforts. Taking is simply emotional theft – seizing what that other person offers to you with little or no thought of thanks or appreciation. It’s obvious that taking is unkind and heartless, and those are characteristics that Good Bad Boys never associate themselves with. In a balanced equation between people, there will be a comparable level of giving and receiving. Allowing a more feminine side to emerge involves being able to effectively give and receive.

Friday, December 28, 2012

Dude, Where's My Feelings?

Throughout these chapters, there is discussion on specific characteristics and behaviors in men that women find very desirable. In addition, we’ve also discussed that dealing with women is fraught with contradictions and paradoxes. It is now time to venture further into territory that will initially baffle most males, but be assured, like the rest of the topics in this book, gaining some understanding of it will significantly increase your attractiveness to women. In an effort to become more circular we’re now going to examine how to access your feminine side.

It wouldn’t be surprising at the mention of that phrase that many of the male readers suddenly have all manner of internal alarms going off, all of which give the sense of an assault on their precious masculinity. This type of reaction is probably from the boy on the inside that hasn’t yet reached a mature comfort level with women, or for that matter, being clear on how to lead with his own sexuality. Dipping into the feminine side does not mean you now have the go-ahead to explode unprovoked into a petulant frenzy – the goal is being a man, not a whiny, ill-tempered little boy. No woman would accept that behavior unless she carried him around for nine months before he was born, and even then patience will be tested! Accessing your feminine side is simply an extension of some of the earlier discussion on being able to effectively communicate your feelings.

As with other challenges already discussed, much work is ahead for you.....

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Now For What You REALLY Wanted For Christmas....

One over-simplified comparison of men and women is that men are linear and that women are circular. Men will often pass over refinement for taking the direct approach. Women are subtler, not necessarily traveling in a direct line from point A to point B, whether it’s in conversation or actually travelling on the road. Men love games that involve a stick or club hitting a ball, or games that involve getting an object into some opening of various sizes.

Women are generally mystified by this concept, preferring to engage in nesting, and making the physical, emotional and intellectual spaces in their lives as interesting as possible. Again, as a male and a slave to the testosterone in your body, you’ll never fully understand the idea of being circular, or shopping, for that matter. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t step away a bit from being rigidly linear.

This doesn’t suggest that you’re suddenly going to go into a cold sweat when you find out the nearby designer shoe outlet is having a 70% off sale. The implication is learning how being more circular with a woman will benefit you.

Friday, December 21, 2012

The True Object Of A Woman's Desire.....

A real man is passionate. In olden tales he was valiant and easily faced danger. His heart is that of a lion, strong, wild yet loyal to those close to him. The daring, dashing, swashbuckling guy that maybe doesn’t have it all figured out, but knew where he stood with women because he understood and loved them. Women yearn for this man and want to be swept away by him.

However, our contemporary society produces a plentiful supply of boys but very few of these men. Today there are no longer standard, primordial rituals for boys to become men. The unfortunate consequence is many boys trying to act as men and failing, and many women heading towards resignation, the chances of finding this man becoming less and less.

Gain a woman’s trust and you’ve taken a giant step towards becoming this man. If you understand little else about women, understand that this is the type of man that many of them will turn themselves over to willingly once that precious trust is gained. It is an effort that all Good Bad Boys make and persevere through until they reach this goal, knowing how crucial it is in relation to everything that follows after it. From earlier posts you understand the importance of acquiring a woman’s deep trust.

Now it is time to move on to the next area in our probing of the female consciousness....

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Feeling It, Man.....

A real man will cry without hesitation, and laugh until he can’t breathe. Boys don’t show how they feel; men are proud of their feelings and know the importance and significance of them. This is accessing your feminine side, and women will instinctively be drawn to you because of it.

Of course, this means being at a level of comfort with who you are that expressing how you feel matters much more than what people will think of you. As expressed earlier, Good Bad Boys express themselves from the inside out - they do not let what people think or what they might do or say affect their course.

Learning how not to travel in a straight line from A to B will prove very useful here.....

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Feeling Your Way Through.....

We’ve already touched on one of the basic foundations of being more circular and accessing the feminine side - that being the ability to effectively express your feelings. Too often men have been taught that expressing their feelings is a sign of weakness, and this is quite unfortunate.

Nothing could be further from the truth, at least from the view of women that I’ve known. Although sometimes it was not easy for me, the times where I was able to communicate through deep sadness or high elation how I felt to a woman, it helped forge a very strong emotional bridge between us. My upbringing as a male in this society has made it more challenging to easily communicate in this regard, being shown that acting more unemotional is more masculine. If you don’t know this already, take the following to heart – effectively showing and expressing how you feel is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Further Along The Path....

If there are a lack of hunters, the herd gets too numerous, and the land cannot support them, suffers overuse and the herd overpopulates and can’t sustain itself. Striking a balance allows for equilibrium between you and other women; an essential balance that has many layers. I refer to it as the Circle of Giving and Receiving.

At first glance, many may think that this circle is simply an equalization of what one offers versus what one takes in from others. However, since it involves the universe of women, there are numerous dimensions involved, and a look further into what exactly giving and receiving actually involves is necessary.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

The Circular Path - The Beginning

Now that you have a grasp of how important the concept of expressing your feelings is, we’ll move to the next level. The next important principal in harmonizing your masculine and feminine sides is learning about the balance between giving and receiving.

On the surface, giving and receiving seems simple enough, but be assured that it is quite challenging. This is a highly important area as far as being clear on who you are inside and then translating those feelings and instincts into actions that go out into the world around you. Once again – Think Less and Feel More.

Step back and take a look at the outside world for a moment. The ultimate authority in Nature is balance. The size of a herd of animals is balanced against what the land can provide it and the predators that hunt the herd. If any of these elements goes out of balance, the other elements are thrown off as well. If there is not enough food for a herd off the land, the group suffers loss and the predators have less for their own and they suffer as well.

Monday, December 10, 2012

Still Building Trust.......

Building trust is a process you can control only in respect to your actions, which includes what you say. This is where a nod from Mr. Nice Guy is in order – follow his lead in terms of being respectful and kind, but also keep a vigilant watch on the times to step in and be a Good Bad Boy. Throughout the text we refer to the desired persona to that of being a Good Bad Boy, but in reality, the only part about all of this being a boy is in the name only. One of the biggest goals here is that when in the company of woman, your words, deeds and action are that of a confident, poised Man.

When the Good Bad Boy and Mr. Nice Guy are put side by side and interact in the proper manner, leading with their strengths, then we have the type of man that in our hearts we want to become, and the man that many, many women really desire. This is a vital notion, because in regard to trust, a woman will be more than happy to play with a sexy boy, but she will only surrender her heart and soul – and trust - to a man who is genuine and authentic.

Becoming an authentic Man is no easy feat. As with everything else, time, patience and perseverance are essential. While this may be work, the rewards will stay with you a lifetime.

Todd Rundgren stated it very clearly in the 1970's -

Forget about bad feelings and be a Real Man.....

Friday, December 7, 2012

Trust Me. Part II

Here’s another saying to consider – Building trust is simple, but it is not easy. Again, another paradox, although this one is not limited to the female realm.

Building trust is simple - you need only be honest, open, communicative, kind and consistent for starters. Sounds simple(!), but when you add in patience, which means you’ll have to do all this over a period of time, and then it becomes more challenging. Remember that without trust, you will never reach that special place in a woman’s soul and body that belongs to a cherished lover.

Again, you’ll have to become adept at subtlety. Being honest doesn’t mean you get to tell a woman exactly what you think about what she’s wearing, her new haircut - which you probably didn’t notice anyway - how she coddles her pet and so forth.

If you can’t be honest without being thoughtful and caring, then you are to keep your mouth shut – no exceptions. Kindness will get you much further than brutal, unadulterated honesty. This is not an invitation for dishonest actions, just be subtle and a little clever.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Trust Me. Seriously.

Surely you've pondered what is the intent of all this careful listening and sharing of feelings, polite and gentlemanly behavior and so on? Hopefully your automatic response wasn’t to get the woman you've just met into bed. You will get there, eventually, but the taking the less direct, more scenic route will be worth it.

The purpose of all this is the gaining the most treasured possession of a woman – her Trust.

Trust was touched upon earlier, but it needs closer scrutiny at this point. Gaining trust is about you having integrity, and that integrity is built on your words and your actions. It is possible for you to bed a woman without her complete trust, if that is all you truly seek. However, you will miss the real treasures that women will offer, and more importantly, you will never be a Good Bad Boy. Without trust you will never gain a foothold in a woman’s heart, hence she will never adore you. Sure, she may think you hot, but that’s what she thinks, not how she feels. Good Bad Boys will never settle for just this, they know the value of being treasured in a woman’s heart and attaining a permanent place there that belongs only to them.

Building trust is the only way to get there.

Sunday, December 2, 2012

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