Thursday, August 29, 2013

A Welcoming Space.....

Make sure your place is clean, well presented, a romantic little escape that she’ll be happy to come to.  Candles and low lighting always helps, and playing unobtrusive mood music like jazz or other instrumental music helps set a nice tone for the evening.  A woman will appreciate that you have a nice place for her to go to, someplace that’s far removed from your fraternity house or college dorm days.  Women, when they first come to a guys place are always sizing it up to assess his taste.  Again, rely on the help of others more knowledgeable that you and take a trip to the local Target or Ikea, and pick a few key pieces and accessories. The money you spend now will pay off in dividends for a long time to come.

As stated earlier, you’re more than welcome to take her out to an expensive meal or club; however the amount of distractions and noise in those choices could make it difficult to communicate and ultimately work against your goals.  There is also one huge advantage to cooking dinner for her at your place that hopefully has occurred to you already.  By having her accept your hospitality, you’ll have gotten her to your home, which means you’ve taken care of one of your biggest challenges for the evening before it even begins.        

Sunday, August 25, 2013

The Good Host

Now, you may be challenged even when it comes to boiling a pot of water, but a quick visit to any of the cooking websites on the internet will reveal a lot of simple recipes, or you can hit your favorite search engine and put in the keywords “cooking, bachelor, clueless” and it should take it from there.  And, and I’ve heard it said from someone much smarter than I in this regard, that “if you can read, you can cook”. 

Women are used to getting taken out to nice dinners, and that’s great, but the effort put forth by cooking a dinner for her means much, much more.  Anyone can pay a dinner tab, taking the time to cook something she will enjoy is only going to enhance your stature and mystique, and further the concept of you being a little more unique among the dating masses.  Don’t ever forget you are always looking for ways to differentiate yourself from the hordes of single guys out there, and this is one excellent way to do it.

Of course, you may have to ‘de-bachelorize’ your living quarters, and enlisting the help of a female friend, or significant other of one of your buddies is strongly recommended.  You just may be too attached to your lighted Chicago Cubs Wrigley Field wall clock to know that it needs to be put away for this particular evening, as well as many other possessions you feel are precious, that will compromise your stature as a Good Bad Boy. 

Obviously a thorough scrubbing is in order if needed, and that means  dusting as well.  A trip to the local newsstand and flipping through a few design magazines should give you an idea of at least the direction your place should be heading.  Don’t go crazy spending hundreds of dollars giving your living quarters a makeover, but spending the time making it a place where a woman will be comfortable and enjoy spending time will be worth all the effort you put into it.

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Getting on Your Turf....

The key here is that you are now the driving force on how everything will proceed.  It will be up to you to come up with ideas, places and things for the two of you to do for the time being. 

Good Bad Boys embrace these opportunities for a number of reasons.  You now have the opportunity to show your style and taste, and find places to go that will be fun, yet sexy, memorable and romantic so you don’t lose sight of your goal.  

Now, while going to a show or out to a club dancing are fine ideas and would be fun, if you really want to become a master at the art of seduction and separate yourself from the rest of the dating herd, one of the sexiest things you can offer is to cook dinner and invite her over to your place.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Anticipation Redux

Often what you don’t do has more significance than any action you may take.  This is a key concept in building desire, which is the point you are now at. 

You’ve just parted ways with a woman after kissing her into a state of longing, and leaving her right there and doing nothing else.  This is a strong foundation to build on.  She will be thinking about it, reliving it (as you should be, too) all the way home.   Now the both of you will be looking forward to the next time you will meet, and the power of anticipation again comes in. 

This was mentioned earlier, and it bears restating.  Anticipation is a powerful tool at your disposal; you want a woman thinking about you, wondering more about you.  This builds a mystique about you.   Let your good efforts simmer until you call her the next day, letting her know how wonderful the previous evening was with her.  She will be happy to hear from you and ready to make plans for your next rendezvous. 

On this important call, which should always happen the day after if possible, be polite; let her know how much you enjoyed spending time with her and that you really are looking forward to spending more time with her.  Schedule a next date with her, preferably on the next available Friday or Saturday night.  It is also important that you again have a few choices for her, in case she wants to get into details.  Usually you’ll call back in a day or two to nail down the specifics, and yes – build anticipation.   

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

You Poor, Poor Sex Object......

There are those occasional instances when it is obvious that the connection is just about sex and that it isn’t likely things will progress in other areas.  There are times where a woman is just interested in you for the sex, she’s attracted to you physically, and is uninterested in a deeper connection.  There can be a thousand reasons for this, and you are not to delve into any of them! 

The shoe is on the other foot, you are being viewed in terms of being a sex object, just as women have been for thousands of years.  If there is a mutual attraction, then by all means, play the role of sex object and be good at it.  Don’t get into any discussions about what you can expect or what she is looking for, she looking for you to get naked and take care of her strong sexual desires.  In other words, don’t do any thinking at all, just go with the gift you’re being handed. 

In these situations, simply be attentive to a woman’s physical needs, do not talk very much, other than asking her if there’s anything she needs or wants.  You’re being used (in a good way, of course), and every one of your pals wish they were in your place.  Don’t make more of it that what it is, make sure the woman you’re with gets your total ‘A game’ sexually, and be responsive. 

Once you both are completely spent, you’ll probably be kicked out the door, or she’ll quietly leave, more often than not these encounters have the meteor-like quality of burning intensely for a short period of time and then flaming out.  You may have a few more get togethers of this sort with this woman and you may end up being ‘friends with benefits” or her ‘boy/man toy’. 

While these situations have value and can be quite fun, do be aware that they have limitations, particularly from an emotional standpoint.  Don’t expect too much as far as long term, however you never know where things may lead.  As long as you and her have realistic expectations, everything should be clean and no one will get hurt – although there’s never any guaranties on that, no matter how much you try to head it off.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Knowing Your Responsibilities

Now, let’s take a moment and discuss one distinct possibility.  The stars happen to be aligned in just the right manner on this first date evening, everything is clicking and there is connection and there’s a nice charge between the two of you.  You’ve given your date the kissing she was hoping for, and has stirred up a strong level of desire in her.  It is just possible she may want to push the evening into deeper territory, and either ask you over to her place or want you to take her home to yours, under the understanding that things may become more sexual right away. 

In some respects, this is totally hot and very exciting, and your thoughts would lead to this being a very memorable evening.  However, as a Good Bad Boy, you must check within yourself, and be clear on a few points that go along with the concept of having sex with someone you’ve just met. 

Firstly, while you’ve just had a nice evening, and have connected in a romantic, sexy way, you are still dealing with someone who is a stranger in many respects, and you want to think about how sexually involved you want to get with someone you do not know.  Keep in mind, a Good Bad Boy is in touch with himself from within and acts accordingly, and this situation could cause a very strong reaction. 

This could be an instance that many times plays out better in fantasy than reality.  Since there is little connection other than your first date to go on, you can run out of common ground quickly.  Physical intimacy should never be regarded lightly, and for all the concerns about taking advantage of a woman, being a player, and so on, how a man feels in this situation is just as important.  A Good Bad Boy will wait and get to know this woman better, and bide his time. 

The added knowledge gained over a few encounters makes for a much hotter and passionate connection, and there will be opportunities to stoke the fire of anticipation and you’ll be glad you waited. 

Monday, August 5, 2013

A Two Way Street

Of course, as stated earlier, dating and seduction is a two way street, so it’s important for you to realize if the woman you are kissing is skilled as well.  Don’t assume all women are great at kissing, there is better and worse here as there is in all of life. 

Often a poor kisser will also be less skilled in many other physical areas as well.  It doesn’t mean you should bail out on this woman, but it does mean you may have to have some patience over time and be willing to teach or learn together if you are interested and willing to explore and grow physically and sexually together. 

Bear in mind, though, you need to be at least somewhat accomplished  in this art form before you start showing others how it’s done, so until you reach that point, stick with the skilled partners.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Good Bad Boy Tip #8

If you’ve kissed a woman in a skilled, firm but gentle, extended and searching way, and she is seemingly tipsy afterwards, you’ve achieved your goal.  She will absolutely want more of this, and you. 

At this moment, look her in the eyes, smile at her genuinely, wish her good night and then head off.  You want the taste and effect of that kiss to last as long as possible, and you hanging around will kill that. 

The lingering effects of your kiss will strike a much more powerful blow than anything you can say or do (other than more kissing) at that moment.  Get lost and let the power of your kiss and anticipation of more of that take hold in her.