Below are the types of behavior you must avoid. These are Real Bad Boys - nothing good about them! Women, if you run into one of these guys turn on your heel and run in the opposite direction at top speed:
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The Narcissist is a personality
type weaved so well into the relationship landscape that there are several sub
categories of narcissism that have to be considered. And just a heads up--there
are plenty of women narcissists that this will apply to as well!
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The Sexual Narcissist is a predator
that encourages deviant sexual behavior and will lure you in by encouraging and
approving 'open-mindedness'. This person
will use guilt to manipulate you into uncomfortable actions.
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The Violent Narcissist--the name says it
all. The 'world is against me' and will sabotage relationships by harassment
and provocation. Also will try to make
you look like the 'out of control' person.
Very dangerous as using physical
violence is a means to an end with this person.
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The Paranoid Narcissist is suspicious of
everything and accuses you of
many things without justification.
Avoids exposure and will use you to hide from facing realities.
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The Preaching Narcissist accuses others of failing unrealistically high standards of
honesty and integrity while secretly lying and cheating behind your back. Full of false moral integrity and high minded
– all to deflect from their utter lack of character.
· The Forewarning Narcissist will actually tell you up front what a bad person they are but
is banking on your thinking you can change them--that you falling for the ruse
that because this person has been 'up front and honest' you can trust them.
Then when you are devastated by their bad behavior they play the 'I told you
who I was when you met me' defense. Next
time one of these folks lets you know that they are no good and you shouldn't
be around them--confound their plan by actually believing them and running away
at top speed
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The Finger Pointing Narcissist will blame
you and others for all failures and will never accept any responsibility. This person projects everything onto others
and uses their ‘forgiveness’ as their hook.
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The Contrite Narcissist will admit to
their bad behavior and promises to change while asking forgiveness for their
transgressions. This person is counting on your hitting the reset button so
they can start the whole cycle over again.
This person promises to change but never does.
In addition to the Festival of Narcissists, also be aware of
these other special folks:
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The Manipulator pits people
against each other and relies heavily on disinformation. Intent on controlling others, and is very
skilled at keeping friends and potential victims apart from each other. Charming and charismatic, is a master with
using words to gain their objective which is
usually financial. Politicians
and television evangelists fall into this category.
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The Substance Abuser is once again all
in the name. Overindulgence in sex,
drugs, alcohol, food or whatever will fill the endless void for self
gratification. This person will try to
coerce you into joining the draining whirlpool of excess.
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The Gambler is a foolhardy risk taker
putting himself and all those around him in jeopardy. Never learns from mistakes and has no remorse
about continually causing ruin from poor impulsive decision making. Keep your finances as far away as
possible.
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The Soul Mate is a nefarious
and crafty type that preys on those that will respond to their button
pushing. Hits you like gangbusters,
sweeps you off your feet doing and saying all the right things and has all the
same interests and tastes that you do.
It’s all a ruse, as those interests are a mirror to deflect from this
person’s lack of depth and false integrity.
The only objective is garnering your attention whether it’s good or
bad. This person appears too good to be
true and that’s because it is. Very
insidious and hard to detect, anyone who seems too perfect warrants deeper
examination.
Once again, by gaining knowledge
on how real Bad Boys operate, you have the opportunity to achieve one of the Good
Bad Boy’s primary objectives, which is to separate yourself from the rest of
the clueless male populace.
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