Saturday, July 6, 2013

The Importance of Being You

Despite your focus on your date, bear in mind a singular goal in becoming a Good Bad Boy is being comfortable with who you are, and being comfortable in what you say and do.  Yes, you have to be attentive to the words and actions coming your way on a first date, but more important is the idea of maintaining your stature, being truly authentic to who you are and fully being yourself. 

Women have an uncanny ability to interpret subtext, and if you’re phony in your words and actions they pick it up fairly quickly.  Bear in mind, attractive women have heard every song and dance line ever uttered under the sun before you showed up, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by being straight and honest.  You also would be shocked by how many women find the flaws in men attractive – it makes you more human. 

You are spending time feeling things out on a first date, and certainly we all want to have an attractive woman be attracted to us.  However, that is no reason for you to go against who you are.  Do not be afraid to communicate your opinion if it differs from your date, you have a right to feel how you feel.  What does matter is how you express it.  Be respectful as to where she’s coming from, just as you want to be respected yourself.  Don’t be combative, it’s just an opinion, so be matter of fact about it. 

Trying to gain favor from someone by constantly agreeing with them will backfire, sooner usually rather than later, and a sharp woman will be suspect if you don’t have opinions of your own, it shows a lack of strength. Obsequiousness is distasteful, and more importantly, this lack of intestinal fortitude will be viewed as weak, and that’s always unattractive. A woman may not agree with what you have to say, but assuming your opinion isn’t disrespectful, she should honor it.  Show her who you are, there is nothing to be afraid of. 

Sending out the message that you are comfortable with who you are is something that women will find much more attractive than you trying to impress them by being a ‘yes man’.  Every guy has done that before and failed.  Show you’re different and that you’ll be fine whether she likes you or not.

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