Listen - Then Ask Questions.....

Now that you’ve managed to corral the lousy habit of freely expressing your opinion, we’re going to turn it completely around.  Staying with the theme of paradoxes, you are now going to do something that fights every drop of testosterone that is coursing through that male vessel of yours.  You are now going to Ask Questions.

One commonality to all Good Bad Boys is that they seek and recognize opportunities to unlock the doors that separate men from women.  This is absolutely one of those occasions, and you must use it wisely.  From my own experience and speaking to other Good Bad Boys, the way we became comfortable with women was by taking the time to listen and then ask questions, which cultivated our understanding of them. 

Show a genuine interest in what she is saying, and try to ask questions that reflect that.  Being a male, you’re more focused on what’s going on below her neck than above, but if you really show concern about the travails of her cat--and mean it--she’ll end up in your arms sooner anyway. 

Besides, you’ll be out of your own head and exploring her world, and that will attract you to her, and vice versa, in a more meaningful and powerful way than left to your own primal devices.