Monday, March 25, 2013

How Does That Make YOU Feel?

Up to this point, you’ve only been lobbing back verbal volleys in regard to her particular dilemma du jour.  There are two types of questions you can now ask, each from different sides of the brain.  You can ask nuts and bolts questions, like ‘Why didn’t your boss speak to you about the reorganization?’ or other male-type questions that essentially ask ‘What do you think about that?’  The other more provocative and difficult, yet ultimately rewarding choice is to ask her ‘How does that make you feel?’

This line of questioning and thinking is much more in the realm of the female, so you may get a protracted response.  Stay focused, keep listening and offer support here and there, but don’t overdo it.  Once again, don’t think too much, relax and simply have a conversation with this other person.  Remember, a woman often times simply wants to know you’re listening and that you care.  If she wants you to solve the problem for her, she will ask you directly to do it.

While women have their similarities, Good Bad Boys already know that women are snowflakes, each one of them unique; physically, mentally and emotionally.  Listen to each woman as if it’s the first time you’ve listened to any woman, and never bring past assumptions or experiences to the table.  In asking a woman how she feels, you become a student, so take the frame of mind that you’re learning.  The favorite subject of all Good Bad Boys is women, and they can never learn enough.  Every Good Bad Boy is always a student and he never assumes he knows everything about women.  That would be arrogant and egotistical, and this attitude will clear the room of all of the women you desire.  If you disagree, you’re welcome to try it your way.  I’m confident you’ll hate the results.

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