Thursday, March 21, 2013

From Theory to Practice....

All this listening and asking questions is terrific, but how does one actually do this?  Well, with anything else, the more you practice the better you get at it.   However, you still have to start somewhere, and here’s a suggestion. 

The next time you’re having a conversation with a woman and are trying to practice Good Bad Boy techniques, listen carefully and follow her lead.  If she’s complaining about work, be sympathetic and agree with her about what a lousy boss she has, how unfair the work load is, how her company doesn’t realize what a prize employee they have on their hands, and so on.  Of course, this shouldn’t be just lip service; you should listen to her and mean it!  A woman will sense insincerity and then you’ll really be in trouble.  The important aspect to realize is that you need restraint, however, this does not give you license to use lame monosyllabic responses like ‘Gee’, ‘Huh’ ‘Wow” or ‘Sure’.  A few caring comments as the discussion flows will ease things.  Let her run with the conversation and get to know her.

Don’t underestimate how important compassion is.  A decent, evolved woman will value compassion and kindness greatly, and showing that you genuinely care about her will make you irresistible.  Of course, women are far more complex than we males, so it’s going to take much more than that to garner their complete adoration.

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