Thursday, October 18, 2012

You Better Keep Listening.......

Up to this point, you’ve only been lobbing back verbal volleys in regard to her particular dilemma du jour. There are two types of questions you can now ask, each from different sides of the brain. You can ask nuts and bolts questions, like ‘Why didn’t your boss speak to you about the reorganization?’ or other male-type questions that essentially ask ‘What do you think about that?’ The other more provocative and difficult, yet ultimately rewarding choice is to ask her ‘How does that make you feel?’

This line of questioning and thinking is much more in the realm of the female, so likely you will get a protracted response. Stay focused, keep listening and offer supportive rejoinders here and there, but don’t overdo it. Remember, a woman often times simply wants to know you’re listening and that you care. If she wants you to solve the problem for her, she will ask you directly to do it. Besides, we've already arrested that bothersome male trait a few posts back.....right?

Since asking a woman how she feels can be a bit of a roller coaster ride for a lot of guys, its important to step back for a moment and remember the bigger picture. You’re trying to become a Good Bad Boy, and they always listen attentively to a woman, because they will learn more about her, and in doing so, will know how to proceed with her.

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