Go Where the Lust Is

Everyone has their tastes and preferences, and while you’ve come a long way, there is simply nothing you can do if a woman doesn’t click with you on that instant, primal level.  Its there or its not, and if its not you need to respect that and leave it be.  However, it is important that you give yourself as much opportunity as possible to make that connection happen.

It is important to know who your potential audience is and make sure you’re as attractive and accessible to them as possible.  While you don’t have to take out a second mortgage for new clothes and other appearance enhancements, spending time on how you will look to someone you’re interested in is time well spent.  As we mentioned earlier, getting the suggestions of your women friends is always a good idea.  It’s easy, since women generally think men can barely dress themselves, so they are happy to give their suggestions.  Be smart and follow them, they know what they are talking about and you are getting the exact information you need. Get feedback on your most and least attractive physical assets, and take them to heart as we are all not very objective with ourselves.  You’ll have to enhance the positive and downplay the negatives.  It will feel odd and uncomfortable at first, but remember, if you want to be a Good Bad Boy, you will have to sacrifice some old ideas about how you should appear in the world to make yourself more attractive to a bigger slice of the female population.  The first impression you make on someone is your appearance, and while you could overcome a lack in appearance eventually with charm and panache, it’s far easier to look well turned out, and build your charming style on top of that. 

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve run into a very cute woman in my free time and began to engage her in conversation, but since I left the house unshaven or poorly dressed, I had to start from a weaker vantage point.  I had to work extra hard to overcome those negatives that I didn’t take a few minutes to address at home.  Ultimately, I overcame them, but why make a tough challenge even harder? 

Bottom line is you never know when you are going to run into a very special woman, so you should always be prepared.  It adds to you as opposed to having to counter something negative, so you’re working smart for yourself.