Friday, January 3, 2014

Working Smart

As briefly mentioned before, despite your appearance efforts and making best use of what you’ve got, you will not make every woman perspire with anticipation when you walk into a room.  In fact, you will not catch the eye of most women when you walk into a room, unless you really possess Hollywood leading man looks, and even then it’s touch and go. 

The good news is you don’t have the time or capacity to handle all of that attention, despite what you may think, and catching the eye of even a small percentage of the women you come across still translates into a large number.  The reality is that trying to date more than two or three women at a time, as much fun as it may seem in your head, would start to work against the quality of your life, as you would find little time to yourself and being much more reactionary to your social life, as opposed to actively defining it.  You’ll be less happy with more women and happier with less, even though that seems counterintuitive to almost every male out there.  Once again – Less is More.  Get one at a time down first and then you can concern yourself with adding more if that’s your interest.

Since you don’t have to worry about appealing to the masses of women out there, your task now is to find those few that you will really connect with.  The hardest part of this is the patience involved because a woman who wants to get closer to you will let you know it, but in a subtle manner.  Your task is to make sure you’re alert enough to pick the signal up when it is sent your way and be ready for it, regardless of how long it takes.  This simply means is you go about your normal routine, and at all times be prepared to hone your Good Bad Boy skills. 

Instead of being like most men, trying to impress yourself onto a woman that really isn’t interested, you’ll patiently wait for one that is interested in you to show you a sign.  Mind you, you have to have your radar on all the time.   You have to be proactive, and practice all the things we mentioned during the early dating scenarios--making eye contact, smiling, being ready and able to drop a clever line to get things rolling – but after that, you step back and wait for the green light, whether it shows up or not.  This is important for a Good Bad Boy, since you only want to go where the lust is, and not where you’re uninvited. 

There is no timetable for any of this, you can go weeks without any positive responses or have two women show they’re interested within an hour.  Consistency is the key, and of course letting go of any expectation as to when and how it’s all supposed to happen. 

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